The principal difference between Tomassi’s and Brown’s visions is that Brown promises her readers, with the aid of glowing anecdata, that you can have the singledom, the career, and all the sex and then get married in your late thirties – at which point you’ll still be able to have all the babies you want, and to hire someone else to take care of them. At that point, Brown points to her own story to reassure women that they’re sure to find a great man who will admire their success and ambition. The book advises women to keep themselves in shape, focus on their careers and social lives, and have as many sexual affairs as they like - especially with married men - until they’re ready (if they ever are) to settle down. I suppose there must be some women for whom this is an appealing picture, but what struck me about Tomassi’s guidelines are just how startling a resemblance they bear, with superficial adjustments in aesthetic, to this wildly successful classic of liberal pop-feminism, which sold two million copies in its first two weeks: Helen Gurley Brown’s 1962 Sex and the Single Girl. And, most startlingly of all: neuter yourself in your twenties.Ī high-value male, then, is a rich, workaholic, commitment-phobic gym-rat who can’t give you kids. Avoid early marriage work hard at staying in shape focus on your career goals earn lots of money.

This, he asserts, turns on becoming a “high-value male” and thus triggering women’s innate, evolved tendency to desire high-status men.īut what does such a high-value male look like? Tomassi this week tweeted his cheat sheet for attaining this elusive status. His prolific output promises, for the young men who pay to access his teaching, to reveal the secrets of “Game”, which is to say the hidden key to manipulating women into wanting sex with you. Rollo Tomassi, the “Rational Male”, is a famous (or, if you prefer, notorious) figure in the online manosphere.

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